Pregnancy sex can be intimidating, to say the least. It is really a trial and error process for each pregnancy as each one is different. As your body changes and grows your sex life will have to keep up with the changes as well. The good thing though is that the changes don’t have to make pregnancy sex unenjoyable, uncomfortable or weird. As long as your doctor has not outright told you to stop, there is no reason to.
When you understand how to find new favorite positions and learn about accessories that will make it less uncomfortable you can enjoy pregnancy sex like pre-pregnancy sex. Yes, being in the know can make sex a lot more comfortable and enjoyable. Here’s your guide to the best pregnancy sex.
How to Safely Use Sex Toys While Pregnant
You can safely use your sex toys during pregnancy. During pregnancy, a woman’s genitalia is lubricated and engorged and as such can be ultrasensitive. Toys can enhance the sexual experience and help to get you both comfortable enough to really enjoy sex.
Whatever you do, ensure that it feels good. If you or your partner are ever uncomfortable you should stop, readjust or grab for a different toy. If you are unusually sore or in pain, or if you start bleeding you should contact your doctor.
The most important point is to be gentle especially when you just start figuring this pregnancy sex out. Remember that insertable sex toys are more rigid than a penis and with your cervix more sensitive during pregnancy you want to ensure you are being gentle.
Breasts are another sensitive area so you may want to put those nipple clamps away. Your joints will be looser so you want to be careful not to overstretch them with interesting positions or with bondage. Overstretching your joints may cause painful injuries.
How Toys Can Help
Pregnancy can be awkward for both you and your partner. The shape of your body changes, you gain weight and this can all be a bit hard to navigate. This may make having sex an all-round weird experience. Toys can help to get you out of your head and more into enjoying the sex that got you here in the first place.
Enter sex toys and accessories. There is a wide range of options available to help both males and females. You can find a toy for almost everything. A sex toy can get you back to the point where you are comfortable with your body and the new weird ways you have to accommodate it. You may find yourself appreciating these and finding they really aren’t weird at all and are simply just different. Communication alone can get the comfort level up which can also increase your ability to enjoy sex again.
A lot of how toys help is really just to get you comfortable enough with the changes that are taking place in your body and how you relate to your spouse sexually. They help to make the emotional space better, help to get you out of your head and to be more present at the moment and to simply enjoy sex regardless of this new body.
What to Consider When Choosing Toys
If you don’t already have sex toys, you will need to purchase one or a few. Here are things to consider when making your choice.
Materials
You want to look for toys that are made with body-safe materials. Look for materials such as glass, silicone, metal, wood or ABS hard plastic. Whatever you choose should be phthalate-free. This is very important as phthalates can disrupt your hormones and therefore are banned from pacifiers and baby bottles.
Use
When using your toys, you want to ensure that each toy is dedicated to a particular erogenous zone. Each toy will only be used in the designated zone so as to prevent the spread of bacteria. You can make it easier by purchasing multiple toys as well as wrapping them with condoms wherever possible. If you are using the condom route then you should ensure you change the condom when changing zones.
Ingredients
When it comes to lubricants and erotic lotions you want to pay close attention to the ingredients. You want to ensure they do not contain any color, flavor or scent that could irritate your sensitive parts or which may cause an infection. The rule of thumb (great whether you are pregnant or not) is to not put it in your privates if you wouldn’t put it in your eyes.
Ingredients to look out for are capsaicin, mint, sugar, etc. Look out for words such as “cooling”, “menthe” or “warming”. You want to take note of products that indicate “for external use only”. Another important warning to look out for is “Not to be used by pregnant women.”
Care
You always want to start and end by cleaning your sex toys. Refer to any guides or instructions that come with your toy to see cleaning instructions.
Listen to your Doctor
Always listen to your doctor. If you are told to STOP having penetrative sex, this means your toys as well. That is all dildos, butt plugs, rabbit vibrators and any other toy that is used internally. If you must stop penetrative sex, you can still enjoy toys on the external genitalia. Take this time to explore and find ways that both you and your partner can reach climax without penetration. Don’t assume that this will be boring or lame, give it a try, we guarantee you that you will surprise yourself.
Explore some of the toys and accessories below that can help to improve your sex life during pregnancy.
List of Products to Consider:
This is an external sexual accessory that is designed to help women get ready for sex. The unit is used between 5 and 10 minutes before sex and then removed. What the Fier does is to enhance blood flow to the genitalia. With this initiated before sex, women start sex already aroused making it easier for them to climax. The device was used in a 4-week scientific study with participants from various age groups. The study found that Fiera was effective in enhancing a woman’s sexual response.
Your purchase includes the device, 2 different sizes of SofSense rings, a soft travel pouch and the charging kit with the simple magnetic attachment. The product is very small weighing in at under 10 ounces.
Pros
- Small
- Affordable
- Quiet
- Discrete
Cons
- Not one size fits all
This massager is designed for a woman’s pleasure. It is a fully waterproof device that is fully rechargeable. It features an ergonomic and unique shape allowing it to be held within the palm of your hand. It is designed so that it can be easy to use with an interface that leaves you more time to enjoy the device than you have to use to try figuring it out. The massager comes with an LED base with a charging indicator. It comes with a travel lock so that it won’t accidentally go off when you are on the go.
Pros
- Travel friendly
- 6 varying speeds
- 8 vibration patterns
- Won Innovative Design of the year for 2018
- Won Luxury Product of the year for 2018
- Easy to clean
Cons
- Doesn’t cater to the male
This vibrator is another option designed specifically for the ladies. It provides both internal and external stimulation. Its motor is almost silent while having multiple speed levels. It is designed with edges that are defined to provide a stronger and more accentuated stimulation experience. The unit is all silicone making it safe for the skin and safe to use while pregnant. It is further coated wit the Irohas anti-dust coating that helps to keep it clean longer. It works by preventing the device from picking up lint and also aids in easier cleaning of the product.
Pros
- 2 vibrating patterns
- 5 vibrating speeds
- Simple 2 button operation
- Waterproof
- All silicone design is safe
- Can be nested between partners so both enjoy
Cons
- A bit on the higher end of the price spectrum
This accessory helps you to get your mojo back if your primary problems are positioning and comfort. It is designed as a two-piece set to help prop the body up so you can be comfortable while having sex and also making the act of sex easier for you and your partner. The wedge works to relieve the pressure felt during sex by adding lift, leverage, and support while cradling all of your crucial points.
Pros
- Provides benefits both parties
- Provides, lift, and support
- Increases comfort of both parties
- Covers are machine washable
Cons
- Bulky
If you are having a problem staying present during sex you can possibly benefit from a massage prior to engaging in sexual activity. With this set of massage oils, your partner can help to remove tension before sex, making the act of sex more comfortable and thus more pleasurable. This Kama Sutra Massage Tranquility Kit contains 5 bottles with a 2-ounce capacity each. The bottle features an easy to use flip-up top and the set comes with a carrying case with zipper closure.
Pros
- TSA approved size
- Reusable bottles
- Easy to dispense flip-up tops
- Included carrying case
Cons
- Some scents may be too strong
Conclusion
Pregnancy comes with a lot of exciting changes but also comes with some that make some things a little bit harder. Sex is one of those things that can get a bit harder when pregnant. Changes in a woman’s body make certain positions tricky and she may even be more conscious of herself. But unless your doctor has told you to stop having sex you can still enjoy intercourse. With the use of one of the toys or accessories above you and your partner can benefit from a heightened sexual experience that can be comfortable as when you weren’t pregnant. Which of these products are you considering trying? We recommend the wedge and ramp combo and the TENGA Iroha Plus Tori as these can improve enjoyment for both partners.
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